There is a version of this story that gets told often. The service member comes home changed. The family adjusts. Time passes. Things get better – or they do not. Either way, the story centers the veteran, the diagnosis, the individual who served. What that story leaves out is everyone else in the house. The […]
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May gave us language. It gave us permission slips, awareness ribbons, and 31 days of conversation about mental health. For military families and neurodivergent households, it gave us something rarer: a cultural moment where the invisible weight you carry every day was at least being named in the broader conversation. And now it’s June. The
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As we move deeper into May and move from Autism Awareness & Acceptance Month and into Mental Health Awareness Month, the transition feels different this year for families like ours. Especially for military families and neurodivergent households where the emotional load never really gets the opportunity to reset. April asked us to see autistic people
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When I returned to an office role this spring, we reached out to the daycare our youngest had attended for a full year before the pandemic disruptions, before essential academics became our rhythm. We hadn’t re-enrolled back then because he was aging out of the pull-up-friendly classrooms and wasn’t yet fully potty trained. But now,
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As Autism Awareness and Acceptance Month comes to a close, many communities proudly highlight their “sensory-friendly” events – spaces meant to welcome autistic children, neurodivergent families, and anyone who benefits from reduced sensory load. But too often, what’s advertised as sensory-friendly ends up looking like the scene so many families know too well: booming speakers,
When Sensory-friendly Isn’t Sensory-friendly: A Call for Better Community Planning Read More »
There’s a moment that almost every military family knows. The orders come in. The timeline collapses. And before you’ve had a single quiet moment to process what’s happening, the lists begin. Schools to research. Utilities to transfer. A house to pack. A child to prepare. A community to leave behind – again. And somewhere in
The Hidden Load: What Military Families Carry during PCS Read More »
There is a moment that too many families know. You finally found the right therapist. Or the right school program. Or the right specialist who actually understood your child. And then something changed – a move, a graduation, a discharge, an insurance switch, a provider leaving – and suddenly you are back at the beginning.
When the System Drops You: Introducing the WARM PASS Framework Read More »
My children don’t transition the way the checklist assumes they will. None of my three do. And if you’re reading this, there’s a good chance yours don’t either. The standard military transition timeline: Pack, move, in-process, enroll in school, settle in. This was designed around a version of family that doesn’t account for the child
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5 Things Every Parent Should Know About IEP Meetings If you’re a parent navigating the IEP process, you know the meetings can feel intimidating. There’s a table full of professionals: teachers, administrators, specialists, and you’re trying to advocate for your child while also understanding a system that seems designed to confuse rather than clarify. I’ve
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When Teachers Say “I’m Already Doing That”: What It Really Means and What to Do About It You’re sitting in an IEP meeting. You’ve come prepared – binder organized, data printed, accommodations researched. You ask for something your child needs. Extended time on tests. Preferential seating. Visual schedules. Breaking assignments into chunks. And the teacher
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